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If it's Not a Challenge, it is Not Training

Ask yourself – are you really working towards your goals during the training sessions, or are you just “attending” them? Especially in reality based self defense, how you approach your trainings is of the utmost essence because the lack of attitude can get you even killed!

I think that every coach should know the importance of a challenge and bring it to his students on every training session to help them reach their resolutions. Such a coach needs to tell them how they are going to achieve it, and what is going to be expected from them. In case your coach didn't tell you; keep reading.

Every time a new student comes to my class, I ask what his or her goals and expectations are.

As a coach, if I can support students in their pursuit of their goals, I should provide to the best of my ability. I need to know their goals. That is the obvious part.

What is but more important to me, is if THEY know what their goals are. If there is a vision behind all the work they are going to do.

This way me and my students can reach the same level of understanding and our work together would be much more effective.

Keep challenging yourself

Reality based self defense industry carries a humongous load of responsibility on its shoulders. It teaches people how to survive and thus it really MUST deliver trustworthy and reliable training results.

My coach (yes, I have coaches too) keeps telling me:

Your training starts when you’re tired!

And he knows why as he has been through so many fights, that when you look at him, you know that compared to this guy, you know you have no freakin’ idea what a true fight is (go to the about section and try to guess which coach it is).

Although fighting itself is a very natural movement for our body it is also very physically and mentally demanding. Especially in real life situations, when your body starts to react to increased stress levels and lets you experience conditions like you’ve never been through before.

If you don’t get comfortable in dealing with stress and high intensity movement, where your mentality plays the main act, you may be very surprised how your previous “training experience” fails you.

You have to get in touch with similar situations at your training sessions from time to time, to develop certain resistance to such high stress events, to allow yourself to work in a desirable way.



You have to get to experience situations when you are so tired you can barely move and still persuade your body to go on; meet times when breathing feels like you are drowning, when you can barely see, hear, keep balance; when you are in pain and still have to go on.

If you can’t think to do it in training, what makes you think you’ll think to do it in the street? - Tony Blauer

Not only will you build really strong mental base like this, but you also widen your comfort zone be able to function under condition when others might give up. Ideally the one who gives up would be your assailant.

On the other hand, if you won’t be able to gain at least some sort of experience in this field of training, the one giving up might be you; what you might be giving up is your property, body, health or your life.

Keep testing yourself and your skills. You’ll soon find out that you feel more comfortable where you previously shat your pants. (And you’d be also able to distinguish between stuff that works and eliminate all the BS that doesn’t.)

  • How can you improve your training to bring more challenging attribute to it, in order to prepare you better for real confrontations?
  • What can you improve immediately?

Adopt proper training attitude

In order to get the most out of your training sessions, you have to develop a certain type of attitude that will reflect your determination to learn effectively and to improve your skills.

In all sports and especially in fighting - people with such healthy attitude are easy to spot. They go out of their comfort zone whenever possible and appropriate to challenge their limits every time they get to train.

If and when the time to test their skill comes, they can take and deliver more damage, fight longer and mainly – they keep proper self defense mindset.

They are focused and goal driven and you should be as well.

Go ahead and watch this video featuring training of Muay Thai fighter Buakaw Banchamek:

Even though it may be a little extreme for some people, there are couple things about training attitude you can learn from this awesome fighter.

His purpose is to compete with others in the ring and win. His purpose is to be a champion, so he needs to act, train and fight, like a champion. If we take this analogy to the world of reality based self defense, we could say:


What you train is what you do baby. Don’t train to be someone’s food. Find your purpose. Define your self. Be a champion, a warrior, a SURVIVOR.

  • How is Buakaw’s performance and attitude different from yours?
  • Who do you think will get better results – a person who just “attends” the training, or the one who actually “trains” there?
  • How can you improve your training attitude?

If you got fired up at least a little, I invite you to continue with reading the Be Your Own Bodyguard article, where you’d learn how Coach Tony Blauer teaches his students and trainers, to get the most from them selves thru really high level warrior mindset programming.

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