The most effective self defense skill is not to be there, where the attack is happening. Being able to avoid violent situations then becomes a fundamental skill of effective self protection. This is an important lesson that every person, especially the ones who don’t have much interest in fighting, should understand and apply to their daily behavior.
IF YOU CAN - RUN!
Sometimes it is our own ignorance that puts us in danger. Sometimes the need to defend our selves is a result of some criminal’s choice ritual. Be it as it is, and even though it is not always possible, we should first be learning how to avoid violence as best as we can, then learn how to kick someone’s ass.
Real fights are only the ones you can’t avoid - Tony Blauer
I like how in the book Meditations on Violence, Rory Miller describes what self defense really is. He calls it a mistake. A mistake in people’s situational awareness; a mistake in their ability to recognize danger before it recognizes them and becomes a threat.
People don’t always get it and think that self defense training starts and ends with learning how to hurt other people so they don’t hurt them first.
The reality is but somewhere different. The true self defense skills begin with learning how to effectively avoid violence and get home safely without putting your or other people’s health in danger.
So if you are concerned about your safety and want to know about reality based self defense, then avoiding violence is what you should learn, and what you should do.
It may be obvious that some people don’t mean any good to you, with others it may be harder to recognize as they might be hiding it well.
They may come in whatever form or shape and we tend to ignore such people and neglect their behavior unless it concerns us directly. But that may be too late.
Folks like this can be everywhere. People that make you feel uncomfortable; give you chills or seem suspicious to you. People, with something creepy about them that just doesn’t feel right for whatever reason.
See the threat before it sees you and keep the situation under your control.
The best way to react is to leave the scene as soon as you recognize the threat (if you can of course) and then call the police to deal with it.
Be polite, be professional, but always have a plan how to kill everyone you meet! - Gen. James Mattis, USMC
When you have to share space with possibly dangerous individuals (meaning you can not or don’t want to leave, take different route etc.), make sure you know where they are, what they are doing and especially what they do with their hands. Look for possible escape routes and places to hide in case you need them.
Keep your awareness level on high level (the Orange stage).
By checking their hands you can see if the bad guy is armed already; if he draws something from his pockets; presses his fists, reaches for something he may use as a weapon etc. If you see that, you may react soon enough and get your self out of threat’s reach.
Don’t go to places you know bad things happen, or might happen. Just don’t. SIMPLE AS THAT.
The best thing is not to put your self in danger at all.
And even though you went thru a certain place a million times and nothing had ever happened to you, you never know what may or may not happen.
There may be a day, when you feel like something is just not right.
Don’t get too cosmic with this, but listen to your stomach – there are many aspects, that your brain assesses subconsciously and this is the way it tells you to get the hell out of there!
Victims of violent attack often say, that they felt something is about to happen. Something in their stomach told them, that something is not right. That something is out of ordinary.
Subconscious evaluation of received information about your surroundings is part of your situational awareness skills.
Here is a little sum up for you to
Things that can really betray us in our way of peace and decision making in avoiding violence are our habits, denial; our ignorance and passivity. Now allow me to explain.
Habits are things that we do unconsciously on a regular basis. To others, our habits can tell them a lot about us - especially how and when we do stuff. The fact that we do things unconsciously is making us predictable and blind in a way.
Predictable, because people know when we do something. Blind, because we don’t really pay attention to it – we just do it.
Denial is a big enemy of self protection and self preservation. The most common form of denial manifest is the “this can never happen to me” type. Anything is possible and the more you deny things, the more likely will they happen to you.
Ignorance means that you are uninformed about certain things. It could mean that you simply don’t care about that stuff or it can be a product of your denial. Ignoring one’s safety is irresponsible and dangerous, yet very common.
Passivity and not doing anything about stuff that matters. Like knowing your neighborhood is not much safe and just living with it, instead of moving or taking self defense classes, learning how to work the pepper spray and securing the house against intruders.
All together, they create a deadly, poisonous cocktail.
Experience is something you get, shortly after you need it! - HIGH GEAR maxim
I really appreciate that you got to the very bottom of this longer article. If you care for more, I’d like you to learn more about the situational awareness and how to avoid being chosen by a criminal.
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